Publications:
Queer Tantra, Gender-free practices for a wide range of bodies and minds, Twin Flame Publishers, expected 2023/2024
Twin Flame Publishers approached me to write a book about consensual, trauma-informed, non-heteronormative, inclusive tantra. Working title: Queer Tantra, Gender-free Practices for a Wide Range of Bodies and Minds. This book is an approach to tantra and mindfulness in an inclusive framework for folks from all genders, and sexual preferences, but also folks with different abilities and on the neurodivergent spectrum. Illustrations by Maas Koekoek.
Stories from the Polycule, Edited by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, Thorntree Press / 2015
‘Sheff (The Polyamorists Next Door) has collected an array of essays, poems, and drawings about polyamory (multiple committed romantic relationships, not to be confused with sex-only swinging) in this interesting compendium, along with a piece about her own experiences with the practice,’ Publishers Weekly.
I contributed two chapters to this first-of-its-kind anthology of people living in consensual non-monogamous relationships.
Vakblad Natuur Bos Landschap – Natuurbegrazing in de praktijk: een kwestie van smaak? / 2009
Met het inzetten van herbivoren in Nederlandse natuurgebieden worden terreinbeheerders voor een aantal keuzes gesteld. Ten eerste de keuze voor de context waarin de herbivoren worden ingezet. Draait het om natuurlijke ontwikkeling, of om het behoud of herstel van een cultuurlandschap? De rol van grote grazers in de beide gevallen verschilt, en daarmee ook de omgang van de beheerder met de dieren. In natuurlijke landschappen zijn herbivoren zelfstandig onderdeel van het ecosysteem. In cultuurlandschappen zijn ze vervangers van vroegere landbouwhuisdieren. Uit deze eerste keuze komt de tweede keuze voort: welke soort herbivoor en welk ras zet je in? Ten derde is er een keuze over de omgang met de dieren. Moeten ze volledig zelfredzaam zijn, of worden er voorzieningen aangeboden? Full article at Edepot WUR >
Media:
2023
[Podcast] Relatie met Seks Podcast #9 met Renske Julia – Link to podcast >
2022
[Article] NOS, online warning about abuse by shibari healer Bodhi Zapha (acted as source) Link to article 1 and article 2 >
[Podcast] Tussen de Lakens met Daphne Gakes – Link to podcast >
[Magazine] Libelle, 14 Tips voor een Gelukkiger Leven – Link to article >
[Article] Cycle Care, What is the meaning of sexual consent? Link to article >
2021
[TV show] Op1, NPO1 – Covid in the world of spirituality Link to TV show >
[Newspaper] NRC, Waar spiritualiteit en samenzwering elkaar tegenkomen Link to article >
[Newspaper] NRC, Verdeling in de spirituele wereld Link to article >
[Interview] Lucy Rowett – Ethics and Boundaries in The Sexual Healing Space Link to interview >
[Article] Elephant Journal, When saying sorry is a trauma response Link to article >
2020
[Podcast] Het Dwaallicht #11 by Marije en Thomas – Over conspiritualiteit, Pastel Qanon en rechtse yogi’s Link to podcast >
[Podcast] The Embodiment Podcast #295 by Mark Walsh – Cuddle and Non-Monogamy Link to podcast >
[Podcast] Seks, relates en liefde! by Nynke Nijman – Intimiteit, tantra & kink Link to podcast >
[Local newspaper] In de Buurt, Ondernemer Uitgelicht Link to article >
[Article] Elephant Journal, What I didn’t like about my open relationship Link to article >
[Article] Elephant Journal, Everyting that’s wrong with saying COVID-19 is about raising our frequency (editor’s pick) Link to article >
[Article] Elephant Journal, I have many lovers – but I don’t want a partner Link to article >
[Article] Elephant Journal, Your teachers shouldn’t project their BS onto you (some things I’ve seen) Link to article >
2019
[Talk] TED talk How Intimacy Design Can Change Your Life (TEDxKoenigsallee) Link to TED website >
[Podcast] Transformatiepodcast #62 by Sjanet de Geus M.Sc – Intimiteit, relaties, knuffelworkshops en kink Link to podcast >
[Podcast] The Sensuality Empowerment Show #2/32 by Sharon Hoffman – Polyamory / Non-monogamy / Open Relating Link to podcast >
[TV Show] Man Bijt Hond – Cuddling during a pandemic Link to TV show > , Link to Screenshot >
[Book] The Inner Compass by Krishna Prem, featured meditation The Inner Compass Link to meditation >
[Newspaper] NRC Weekend edition, coverstory, Hier leer je kroelen voor gevorderden Link to article >
[Newspaper] De Volkskrant longread, Als tantra naar seksueel misbruik neigt: vijf oud-cursisisten over The New Tantra Link to article >
[Magazine] Healthy by Holland and Barrett #105, p70-71 – Knuffel jezelf Link to article >
[Magazine] Vrij / De Telegraaf #16, p34-36 – We moeten meer knuffelen! Link to article >
[Magazine] Santé, p44-46 – Knuffelkracht Link to article >
2018
[Podcast] Tantra Punk #139 by Learning to Share Your Love and Your Lovers Link to podcast >
[Radio] De Boost met Joe all the Way – Knuffelen is van levensbelang Link to show >
[Radio] Radio 1, an item about national cuddle day
2017
[Interview] Polyamory Weekly #533 – Reducing friction in first-time metamour meetups Link to website >
2016
[Magazine] Linda #142, p121-125 – Met zijn vieren in bed Link to article >
2015
[Book] Stories from the Polycule by Elisabeth Sheff (Thorntree press) – two featured stories: Open relationships and the fear of a better match, p63-68, and The Influence of Polyamory on my Sexuality, p246-250 Link to book >
[TV Show] Lauren en de Liefde met Lauren Verster – Knuffelworkshop Link to fragment >
2014
[TV show] Je Zal het Maar Zijn met Sophie Hilbrand – Relaties Link to TV show >
2013
[Magazine] Vrouw / De Telegraaf #16, p27-30 Wij hebben een open relatie Link to article >
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