I like kink and BDSM as Tool for Growth (and Why 50Shades Sucks)

I like kink and BDSM as Tool for Growth (and Why 50Shades Sucks)

Over the years there have been many tools that helped me grow from a shy girl into the woman I am today. Kink and BDSM are amongst my favorites. They receive a lot of judgment. But to me, they have been lifesavers. They have helped me step outside the social paradigms...

Changing Attachment Dynamics Can Feel So Wrong

Changing Attachment Dynamics Can Feel So Wrong

It's interesting. How when changing the patterns around me, the results become different. Of course. Different input (by conscious choice) creates a different output. But the brain! My mind says: "It's different, which is not the usual pattern, which means whatever is...

Sitting with Overwhelmed Children

Sitting with Overwhelmed Children

Eight years ago on this night, I wasn't sleeping. My body was feeling the contractions of my third child coming. The Little Pirate was on her way. Her birth was special. It was calm, peaceful, fast. Just like her sisters, she came out of my womb on a stool in front of...

The Viking & I: Emotions when Entering a New Relationship

The Viking & I: Emotions when Entering a New Relationship

You may have seen the Viking on my media. Yep, he's there. Entering my life the way Vikings do: effectively, present, and thorough. It's the thing about attracting what you desire: once you actually realize what it is you really need, which may differ from what you...

When Anxious meets Secure – Attachment Dynamics

When Anxious meets Secure – Attachment Dynamics

We all have attachment patterns. Some of us are securely attached, and have no challenges letting intimacy come close. Others are insecurely attached, and love can be the thing we most crave and fear at the same time. We have our preferred strategies, that are either...

Do I really want what I think I want?

Do I really want what I think I want?

Lately, I’m enjoying entertaining myself contemplating if I really want what I think I want. I think I know about all the things that I want, and I enjoy time meditating as if what I want is there. You know, the first step in the Law of Attraction, right before taking...

Nothing Happens in Winter. Or?

Nothing Happens in Winter. Or?

Human processes are like the seasons in a temperate climate. There are the bigger waves, aligned with the seasons where the general tendency in summer is to go on adventures, and in winter many of us like to snuggle under a blanket with a book. Then there are the...

Embracing Anger

Embracing Anger

Anger, for me, is an emotion I easily bypass from a place of reason. But tapping into anger can be an amazing tool to release, as well as to feel our boundaries. There is a caveat though. When we, consciously or unconsciously, direct our unprocessed anger at someone,...

Intimacy is So Much More than Sex – with Jamie Catto

Intimacy is So Much More than Sex – with Jamie Catto

Me and Jamie Catto talking about what intimacy is, how sex can be more than rubbing things together.  Sex is not just an act. But culture teaches us to approach sex in a 'yang' manner: directed actions with a clear goal in mind. But when we learn to listen to our...

Dealing with Overwhelm

Dealing with Overwhelm

This morning I woke up feeling completely overwhelmed. Not because of bad things - because there is a lot of high-intensity awesomeness going on in my life. Plus a vast to-do list. We need self-care. Even though people might still run the paradigm that self-care is...

The Power of Bondage

The Power of Bondage

It's no secret that I'm a fan of kink. The play with polarities, leading and surrendering can be an amazing path of personal growth. Ropes are a tool that we can use to emphasize the leading or surrendering pole. Being tied, there's literally nowhere to go as your...

The Fine Line between Things to Face & Boundaries

The Fine Line between Things to Face & Boundaries

One of the most common pitfalls in the field of personal growth that I see is the belief that we have to face everything that triggers a response in us. After doing my research, I concluded this is absolute nonsense. Not everything we face is a challenge to overcome....

Sexual Nourishment – with Reid Mihalko

Sexual Nourishment – with Reid Mihalko

Join Reid Mihalko and me as we talk about s.xual nourishment, where we share some of our personal backgrounds around nourishment, as well as an overview of different ways of finding s.xual nourishment (hint: it's not just about touching yourself) right at the end....

What Does it Mean to Hold Someone?

What Does it Mean to Hold Someone?

To hold space. To be there for someone. What is that, what does it mean? To me, it means being fully present with someone, without wanting to change anything. It's dropping my agenda about what they need to feel, understand, go through, drop, invite or change. It's...

Waves of Change

Waves of Change

Change, in my experience, often comes in waves. And those waves can be very intense, and come with emotions, losing/gaining friends, feeling insecure, enthusiastic, disconnected or super aligned.

Balance is in the Extremes

Balance is in the Extremes

To me, balance isn't a steady state. Balance rather is the 'average' of extremes. Being introvert and extrovert. Being shy and outgoing. Bringing the kids to school, and traveling the world giving kinky workshops. Just to name a few..  

The Epicness of Love – with Monique Darling

The Epicness of Love – with Monique Darling

I'm meeting with one of the people I love most in the world, Monique darling, at the marriage of our shared friends Eugene Hedlund and Fia Forstrom. Looking at the big love surrounding us, we share about the epicness of Love.

Thoughts about Marriage

Thoughts about Marriage

What do you think: is marriage an outdated institution, or something still worth considering?

Moving through Emotional Rough Patches

Moving through Emotional Rough Patches

Whether it's the planets, karma, ancestral healing or simply life as it is. This week is moving a lot in me. Sending all of you who are in some sort of a rough spot so much love. I love you. You are lovable. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

B-SMART: A Tool for Navigating Edgy Spaces

B-SMART: A Tool for Navigating Edgy Spaces

  Navigating edgy spaces can be, well, edgy. Most of us grew learning very little about clear communication. Especially around intimacy. It seems to me often we're almost secretly trying to approach someone. Because we're afraid of rejection? Because we have no...

About Attracting Unavailable Partners

About Attracting Unavailable Partners

Attracting unavailable partners... It's a pattern! I have written about it before: I'm so tired of attracting unavailable people. And also, what is emotional availability anyway? But: if there's a pattern, there's something to learn. What's in this for me?

How Does Attraction Work?

How Does Attraction Work?

We all know the commercial form of attraction where we stand frozen, blown away by the magnificence of the other. Or love at first sight. But are that all the flavors of attraction? And what does that attraction that comes with so much firework actually mean?

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