My Favorite Tool for Growth (and Why 50Shades Sucks)

My Favorite Tool for Growth (and Why 50Shades Sucks)

Over the years there have been many tools that helped me grow from a shy girl into the woman I am today. One of my favorites and most helpful tools I have encountered is kink. It helped me step outside the social paradigms around gender. It helped me state my...

Changing Attachment Dynamics Can Feel So Wrong

Changing Attachment Dynamics Can Feel So Wrong

It's interesting. How when changing the patterns around me, the results become different. Of course. Different input (by conscious choice) creates a different output. But the brain! My mind says: "It's different, which is not the usual pattern, which means whatever is...

Sitting with Overwhelmed Children

Sitting with Overwhelmed Children

Eight years ago on this night, I wasn't sleeping. My body was feeling the contractions of my third child coming. The Little Pirate was on her way. Her birth was special. It was calm, peaceful, fast. Just like her sisters, she came out of my womb on a stool in front of...

The Viking & I: Emotions when Entering a New Relationship

The Viking & I: Emotions when Entering a New Relationship

You may have seen the Viking on my media. Yep, he's there. Entering my life the way Vikings do: effectively, present, and thorough. It's the thing about attracting what you desire: once you actually realize what it is you really need, which may differ from what you...

When Anxious meets Secure – Attachment Dynamics

When Anxious meets Secure – Attachment Dynamics

We all have attachment patterns. Some of us are securely attached, and have no challenges letting intimacy come close. Others are insecurely attached, and love can be the thing we most crave and fear at the same time. We have our preferred strategies, that are either...

Do I really want what I think I want?

Do I really want what I think I want?

Lately, I’m enjoying entertaining myself contemplating if I really want what I think I want. I think I know about all the things that I want, and I enjoy time meditating as if what I want is there. You know, the first step in the Law of Attraction, right before taking...

Nothing Happens in Winter. Or?

Nothing Happens in Winter. Or?

Human processes are like the seasons in a temperate climate. There are the bigger waves, aligned with the seasons where the general tendency in summer is to go on adventures, and in winter many of us like to snuggle under a blanket with a book. Then there are the...

Embracing Anger

Embracing Anger

Anger, for me, is an emotion I easily bypass from a place of reason. But tapping into anger can be an amazing tool to release, as well as to feel our boundaries. There is a caveat though. When we, consciously or unconsciously, direct our unprocessed anger at someone,...

Intimacy is So Much More than Sex – with Jamie Catto

Intimacy is So Much More than Sex – with Jamie Catto

Me and Jamie Catto talking about what intimacy is, how sex can be more than rubbing things together.  Sex is not just an act. But culture teaches us to approach sex in a 'yang' manner: directed actions with a clear goal in mind. But when we learn to listen to our...

Intimacy Coach & Educator | International Speaker  & Facilitator | Entrepreneur | Mother of Three

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