“If there is any doubt, there is no doubt.”
– Hebrew saying, taught to me by Eyal
“If it’s not a ‘Hell yes!’, it’s a ‘No’.”
– wise words from Steve Pavlina
Life is actually very simple. There are things you want in your life, and there are things you don’t want in your life. And although this is very simple, it takes courage and an ability to look inwards to really feel what it is you do/don’t want in your life.
I’m practicing with every decision I make. Small decisions and large decisions. Easy choices and dificult choices. I learn that saying ‘No’ strengthens me and gives me that wonderful feeling of trusting myself. And even though tehre are still layers of insecurity, neediness and looking for things outside myself, there is a strong, loving core that becomes more and more tangible and apparent.
I have said ‘No’ to business deals, clients, dates, potential lovers. That moment of saying ‘No’and sticking to my choice if another tries to persuade me is a little scary. But the moments afterwards… I feel so true to myself. It’s a wonderful path.
You might experience me saying ‘no’ to a question or suggestion you do. Realise that when I (or anywone else) doesn’t reject you as a person. It’s a no to a situation. A feeling of non-allignment. For me to say ‘Yes!’, I need my mind, intuition, focus and desires in allignment. If one of them isn’t in for it, there will never be a real ‘yes’. A partial ‘yes’ means that I will never be able to give myself completely. I’m never in the moment for the full 100%. For me to say ‘no’ to you, is – to me – more respectful than giving you a partial ‘yes’.
My ‘no’ to you is an act of respect to both you and myself, acknowledging the suggested situation isn’t the most beneficial experience for either of us.
My ‘hell yes’ means a complete allignment in me for this suggested experience with you.