Healing myself – part 1 and 2

It feels like I’m going through all my chakras to really clear them up from all deep pain and hurt that is still there. Last week on Wednesday Seb and I had our first fight. It was about a misinterpretation of how much we’d tell each other about our openness in relationships. We had an argument but talked things over during the next days and eventually came out stronger than before. But our fight also opened a well of fear. I cried and cried. I felt so unsafe and sad. It was like a major fear from the past wasd triggered. All of a sudden I felt like the little girl in the situations I always had to deal with in…

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Open relationships: How much do you tell?

No matter if you keep your open relationship clothes-on or clothes-off, it’s very important to discuss how much you want you and your partner to tell each other. Discuss before practicing! It is very important to have the conversation about how much details you want to share with each other before you start connecting with new people. When you involve yourself into stuff without knowing that your partner really likes to know about new steps you are about to make on beforehand, you have no second chances. If you only tell your partner afterwards, or worse, when your partner finds out afterwards, your partner might never trust you again. Is that worth it? All dirty details What if your partner…

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How to take responsibility in difficult situations

I could feel something standing in between my boyfriend and me. I wasn’t sure what exactly caused this tension. But it was there. And it felt pretty nasty. In the past I would have blamed him. I would take offense because of him not putting his shoes where I thought he should put them. Use these minor events to let the tension escalate into a fight. We would both feel bad. Because we didn’t get to the source of the tension, the situation wouldn’t improve. If we’d continue on that path, our relationship would become fragile. That much I learned. So I didn’t blame him. Instead, I took 100% responsibility and held myself, and only myself, responsible for the situation.…

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How to release jaw tension

How to release jaw tension

The jaws can be a major place for physical stress to accumulate. Just as the neck, shoulders and back, the jaws are a hotspot for mental unease to build up. Why at the jaws? Because we were told to do so. A little history of jaw tension There’s a little kid, sitting at the dinner table. The kid had a great day at school and wants to tell all about it. But the parents are talking with each other. They haven’t seen each other all day too and are just as eager to tell about their day. The kid constantly interrupts the conversation of the parents. They ask the kid politely to wait a little bit. When they are finished…

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How to feel happy quickly – a recipe

Let me teach you a way to feel happy. I’m not pretending to make you BE happy in 10 minutes. That may take some more time. But even in times of sadness or processing, you need some time to laugh. A recipe for how to feel happy quickly. Follow all steps or just pick the one that attracts you most. 1. Make a delicious, healthy smoothie This one offers a lot of comfort. Find a blender or food processor. If you don’t have anything else nearby, grab a fork. Release some frustration with it by mashing the ingredients 🙂 Take: Bananas, 1 per person Soy milk (or any other plant based milk) (Raw) cocoa powder Fresh ginger (soothes nausea); optional Some…

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Feel like crying

Some days things just don’t work out. Emotions swirl around. They don’t have a clear reason or source. They’re just there. Life seems tough. It makes me feel like crying. What’s wrong? Nothing. Everything. I don’t know! I’m so happy with the life I live. I’m so grateful for the abundance it brings me. Still tears run down my face. I want to be free of worries. Feel relaxed in everything I do. See everything and everybody as a source of blissful joy. See each day as an infinite source of possibilities. Enjoy every split second of it, smiling broadly. That’s not how I feel today. Today I feel there’s not enough. There’s not enough time for me to be…

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In love, 1+1 is much more than 2

Mathematically 1+1 equals 2. If you have a certain amount of something and you wish to divide that amount with a number of people, everybody gets a part. When more people join the party, the portion of the pie each person receives reduces. Young parents love their newborn kids more than they could ever imagine. When a second baby is about to arrive, it is a common fear that they could never love the second child as much as this first child. After the second child is born they realise that their worry was needless. They love their second, third and all following children just as much as they love the first one. Love ≠mathematics Love is not like mathematics at…

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How to come up with topics to write about

What to write about? Some days I wonder what I will be writing about. I challenged myself to write for 30 days a blog post each day. Considering my other daily activities (being mother, owning horses, etc.), it means I have only limited time each day to write. Sometimes there only a little time slot available (like today). For me, there are two ways of dealing with the topic of inspiration: The masculine approach The masculine approach to writing is to set a moment in time, sit behind my computer, and find a topic to write about. It’s about being effective (doing the right things) and efficient (doing the things right). Not going to bed until you finish what you…

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How to clean a mailbox

After a turbulent time with many new experiences, it feels like time for reflection and evaluation. Resting a little before the rollercoaster takes me on another round. Yesterday I felt an urge to clean my house, as a physical act of my mind that’s clearing up. Today I felt like cleaning up more. My email account piled up messages for some years and because of the mess it wasn’t very nice to look for old messages, and I started to forget answering important emails, and getting distracted by unimportant stuff. How to clean a mailbox? Here’s what I did: Start somewhere First I made a new folder for emails and and called it ‘old inbox’. I put all messages older…

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Clean house, clear mind

As I believe, there are different ways to clean your house. Now I don’t mean the coice between a rag, a cloth or a duster, but the differences in mindset while cleaning your house. 1. “Must clean the house!” You clean the house because you believe you have to. It’s Monday and on Mondays you vacuum your house. It doesn’t matter if you look forward to doing it, it doesn’t matter if it is necessary, all that matters is that it should be done. Likely your mood won’t be very pleasurable. Probably you are moody while doing it, having negative thoughts, lowering your energy level and that of others. Have kids? Maybe your kids are getting annoyed when you are…

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